All In One Boat

OK. I can’t stand it any more. I have to talk about massages in the $250 an hour range. In D.C.

First off, when I get a massage in Marin County, one of the most expensive places to live in the U.S., I pay from $55 – $90 an hour. So THAT’S interesting!

Second off, Deborah Palfrey ran her Pamela Martin and Associates in D.C. from Vallejo, California for pete’s sake! How did she do that? I mean I love the internet and think it is changing our lives but, how did she get her piece of the action, her sawbucks? How did she check up on the wardrobes? Virtual pimping is really quite a novel concept, which I expect to see written up in PC World immediately.

Third off, if “massage” is being used in the first case above as a euphemism for human activities that to some human beings are unspeakable then I think it’s still a bit costly, being of the school if you can’t get it free it ain’t worth having, but basically it’s OK with me.

Fourth, it has always struck me as odd that the two biggest motivators of human behavior –sex and money– are thought by most to need a firewall between them.

Fifth, so long as its consensual, really consensual, naked Rolfing shouldn’t get anyone’s nose out of joint, unless it’s the fidelitor and fidelitee.

Sixth, what is below the surface of Tobia’s remark that he has lately turned to a service with Central American ladies? (See consensual, above, or Digby, here.)

Sixth, if you make a fine living thundering about sex as the unspeakable act, vituperating those who think otherwise, and then get caught delightedly doing the very unspeakable, then you are fair game: Dick Morris, Randall “Abstinence” Tobias, Harlan “Shock and Awe” Ullman… more to come.

Frankly, I can’t wait to see the ABC special about Ms. Palfrey’s phone list. I just hope in our happiness at the good fortune of seeing hypocrites fall we don’t revive the Puritan within us all….

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Michael Jones, the “masseur” Ted Haggard turned to for a healing touch in his time of need, opens up to Michelangelo Signorile on his OutQ show. This is quite explicit so cover your eyes….

Signorile interviews fallen-evangelical-leader Ted Haggard’s male hooker .

It’s pretty interesting that Jones claims he himself did not use Haggard’s name when he finally spoke publically — that came from some enterprising reporters. Jones also had made up his mind months ago to do something and the initially approached TV station wanted video footage and DNA evidence. Hard to say whether that request was good reporting, CYA-ing, or purient marketing dreams. Finally, from the tone of Jones speech, and the text here, you have to like the guy.

“I don’t feel like a hero. I wasn’t trying to be a hero. I’m at the age of 49. I saw a lot of my friends going through hell in years past, where one of the partners would die and the other family would come in and say get out of the way, and just rape the house, and there was a lot of crying. I felt like this was a responsibility to my fellow gay brothers to do this.”

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I asked the other day, following the Amish murder cases and the Foley revelations, what a person in the US can do, if plagued by sexual fantasies of children. At least one hospital in Berlin has asked the same question and come up with some answers, including a program for those who come in, and a public education campaign to let people know there is help available. The story is difficult to read — and not because of pornographic images. Ralf, the man featured in the story, has a life one would change for schizophrenia I believe.

Ralf P. is plagued by sexual fantasies of the kind he would rather not have — he’s pedophile and struggling to resist his own impulses. Berlin’s Charité hospital now offers a new program combining counseling and hormone therapy for men in his situation.

“I Hate My Desires – They Make Me Sick”

I am not aware of such programs or education campaigns in the US. If there are any known to any of you please send on links and news. I’ll post them.

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